The Pericardium System
The pericardium system, also known as the heart protector is the pericardial sac. It is the second bodyguard in charge of protecting our heart. It does just that. It absorbs the physical blows as well as the mental, emotional and spiritual traumas and shocks that would otherwise traumatize our heart. The last thing we want is for our heart to get a cramp.
Our heart is not a pump. The heart protector—not the heart—directs the peristaltic action of our arteries, distributing our heart’s warmth, unconditional love and guidance to every cell in our body and bringing it back thousands of times each day.
Ancient texts called this system circulation sex because muscles that make energy for this system—the piriformis, buttocks muscles, multifidus and the adductor muscles that draw our legs together—are essential for making love. These are powerful muscles that make the electrical energy our pericardium uses, big muscles that make a lot of energy. That should clue us into how important our heart protector is.
The heart protector system runs at its strongest from 7 to 9 PM. This is a good time to shut down the television or computer screens, settle down with a book or cuddle with your sweetheart.
On the higher levels of conscious, the heart protector sends our heart’s unconditional love, warmth and guidance to everyone and everything we think about. As we grow and evolve into our power as spiritual beings living in the material world, learning how to love in ever more situations makes our life all that more fulfilling. All life is about relationships.
Relationships hold the universe together—everything from atoms to galaxies to friendships—and our heart protector is the ambassador to and from all our relationships. As our heart’s Imperial bodyguard, the heart protector's job is to keep all our relationships healthy by extending the heart’s unconditional love, warmth and guidance to everyone and everything while maintaining clear boundaries.
Authors, speakers and friends Gay and Katie Hendricks clearly explained the difference between relationships and entanglements. A relationship has two definitions:
• A relationship exists when two whole people come together to share their essence.
• A relationship allows the entire gamut between intimacy and aloneness.
The above two definitions seem so simple but they take years to master. In a relationship, both parties walk away with more energy than they had when they met.
A Whole Person
To consider a person “whole,” is to assume that he or she has every skill they will ever need to handle every problem they will encounter, that their essential nature is Christ consciousness or a Buddha in training, no matter how they are acting.
When we worry or are concerned about someone or make excuses for their behavior, in our world they are no longer whole. This way of thinking handicaps and invalidates that person from being a powerful spiritual being. In our unique world, we have transformed that person into a third-class citizen. And that influences them to react in ways we will not like.
Everyone reacts to our thoughts as if they heard them. Their unconscious reaction to us seeing them as less than whole is usually resentment. Worse, our negative opinion of them influences them to screw up, just as we thought they would. And the drama goes on.
We come into better relationships and harmony with others when we think of them as whole. That means assuming that they are powerful spiritual beings that have every skill and talent they will ever need to handle any problem that comes at them.
The Balance Between Intimacy and aloneness
When a person needs space and we give it to them, magic happens. We are giving them what they need—what they want. When we give people the space they need, they can more quickly resolve whatever problem has arisen. We allow them to feel safe.
When a person wants intimacy from us, it usually doesn’t require that much. Briefly listening or a touch or hug usually fulfills their need. But when a person wants intimacy and—for whatever reason—we push them away, we create a dysfunction that can take hundreds, often thousands of times more energy to handle. We have created an entanglement. And, unlike relationships, entanglements are never fun.
Any encounter that does not fulfill the two definitions of a relationship is an entanglement. If someone wants space and we cling to them, that is an entanglement. If we make excuses for them or are concerned about how they will handle something, which is technically worry, that is also an entanglement. The emotional undercurrents that follow suck all the joy and happiness out of the encounter. Both parties go away with less energy than they had. Currently, most people’s encounters with others are entanglements.
If we simply wonder how much intimacy or aloneness a person wants, we innately know the answer. A person may want 10 percent intimacy and 90 percent aloneness. Give them space. A short time later that same person may want a moment of intimacy. Interactions become more fluid and fulfilling. Everyone is physic in their own way, although most dismiss it as “only their imagination.” Some of us hear, others see, while others simply know (auditory, visual or kinesthetic).
As we simply observe these two simple rules of relationships, our encounters transform into relationships. Relationships give back much more energy than either party expended. They provide increasingly more protection and health to our heart. Cherishing others is the greatest protection we can give our heart. As a result, our heart is able to keep our kingdom safe, peaceful, productive and healthy.
We Fall Asleep Dozens of Times Daily
When any negative feeling comes up—and we don’t actually feel it—our heart and the higher dimensions our bodymind are instantly taken offline. And, in that same instant, our brain defaults to being in charge and starts spinning stories that justify why it is acceptable to hold that feeling against the other person.
The stories our brain generates are oh so familiar because it has spun them so many hundreds of times in the past. This process is so subtle and so seductive that we all fall asleep dozens of times every day.
Negative feelings we don’t actually feel build up emotional pressure within our bodymind. That pressure causes most of our pain. It also causes our brain to generate thousands of negative thoughts and actions—thoughts and actions we would never script if we knew that we write the screenplay of our lives.
Our bodymind is more devoted to doing what our spirit/soul wants than any dog we ever had or could even imagine, but it takes everything we think and say personally. It assumes that the negative thoughts our brain is aiming at others are actually aimed at it. The emotional pain it experiences impairs all our cell’s and organ’s functions, forcing them to operate at much lower levels of efficiency, often self-destructively. Most of the pain and disease we experience results from wrong thinking.
Most people think they are feeling their feelings when they are actually only thinking or talking about their feelings. The brain’s seduction is rationalizing how and why it is acceptable to hold those feelings against the other person. That is not feeling or resolving the feelings.
To be sure you are actually feeling your feelings:
• Come to a full stop.
• Only let the brain have the one sentence that brings up the negative feeling, like “That makes me angry.” That’s enough words. Now, go inside yourself and experience the feeling of anger. Any further thoughts actually stop the process of feeling/experiencing.
• You can become aware of where that emotion is in your body. It may be a tightness in your chest. It may be a knot in your gut. It may be a feeling of tiredness. You may experience the feelings in any part of your body, or over your entire body.
• Stay with the feeling—without dialogue or letting your mind try to manipulate the incident in any way—until it dissolves. This is forgiveness.
Forgiveness is simply feeling your feelings
When hurtful inappropriate words are spoken, we often walk away from it—stoic—holding all those feelings in our bodies to later become indigestion, a pain in the neck or elsewhere.
Who do we forgive? How about our own self for not being able to respond authentically with our feelings in the moment it happened? What treasures come from that authentic exchange?
A big part of what we need to forgive is our inability to be present in the moment. We hurt ourselves for what that person carelessly said or did. They could have been oblivious to the pain we went through. Their words or actions often had nothing to do with us.
We need to be response-able. Able to respond in the moment, in a non-judgmental way, speaking “I” statements instead of “you” statements. We should never be victims. No matter what we must physically do or say when dealing with others who are toxic, feel the toxic feelings. Then, how we respond to situations says more about who we are than who the other person is.
When we feel all the feelings that come up as we go through our day, we are living the spirit of forgiveness. We are forgiving ourselves and the world.
We are always overwriting our DNA. Simply feeling our feelings changes the past, present, and future. We rewrite our DNA strands in a more loving and empowering way. And our forgiveness helps others to rewrite theirs in wonderful and powerful ways.