Dozens of times daily, we nod back into unconsciously thinking about our feelings. Learning to actually feel all our feelings—instead of the unconscious habit of just thinking about them or ignoring them—is the most difficult and the most rewarding habit we will ever learn. It take our lifetime to master this habit, but wow! What a difference each day makes.
Spiritual awareness is simply mindfulness of basic habits. The first three: breathing out strong, having an erect posture and feeling our feelings form a stable foundation for meeting life head-on. A realistic actionable goal is to be much better at each habit every year. Age and life is much kinder when we do.
Changing our habits from unconscious ones to habits that allow us to live in the present moment is the pathway to higher consciousness.
The energy of our spirit is most like the energy of our feelings. Within our seven-dimensional bodymind, spiritual energy is nothing like the energy of our thoughts, attitudes, values, principles or beliefs. Our feelings are actually the core of our spiritual guidance system. They connect us directly with the wisdom of our spirit.
To our spirit everything is occurring here and now. Our spirit is not confined by time or space. Our physical body is. Not our spirit or soul. When we meet someone new, our spirit instantly takes in the full measure of that woman or man. The feelings and impressions we get in those first moments are our spirit’s exact preview of how we will feel about them in the future. Our first impressions are priceless information.
Also, if someone invites you to a function that’s occurring three weeks from now, the instant they start talking about it, your spirit starts experiencing it as if it is happening here and now. To your spirit, it is. The feelings and impressions you get in those first moments is your spirit’s exact preview of how you will feel if you actually go to that event three weeks from now.
Most of us go through life treating our feelings like weeds along the highway, believing our thoughts are so almighty important. They are not. Feelings are dozens of times more important than anything our brain thinks. Feeling our feelings makes us much more spiritually aware.
Feelings that we do not experience build up pressure inside our body, especially negative feelings. As the emotional pressure builds, they intensify any pain or dysfunction we have. The resulting pain that builds up from unfelt feelings is more painful than physical pain.
Physical pain rarely exceeds a four on a one-to-ten pain scale. When pain builds to a seven or eight, we can safely bet that seventy to eighty percent of that pain is emotional. The build-up of emotional pressure causes our brain to generate thousands of toxic thoughts and actions that we would never actually script if we actually knew that we write the screenplay of our life. Pet scans confirm that the average person’s brain generates 70,000 thought forms per day, like a hamster running in a squirrel cage.
Worse, all those thoughts forms keep us trapped in the past, the future or some past/future construct where we don’t have the leverage to create our life the way we want it. The brain’s version of the past drags heavy chains of shame, guilt and missed opportunities. Its version of the future projects worry, fear, anger, irritations and other distressing feelings into its projections.
Life’s a drag when our brain is in charge. The brain is a problem solver. If there are no problems, it will generate problems for us to get tight about. The brain is simply not capable of creating our world in a loving manner.
Feeling our feelings releases the pressure that would otherwise generate toxic thoughts while waking us to the present moment. Our mind quiets and calms. Long minutes go by without a single thought. Peace of mind naturally fills that space.
Set a Goal and Fears Immediately Come Up
As soon as we commit to a goal, fears always come up. Always! As we feel the fears, they shrink down to mice-size and then dissolve into nothingness.
If we don’t stop and actually feel the feelings, our thoughts about them continue to build up emotional pressure. Creating a vicious cycle, as the pressure builds, our brain generates increasingly fearful thoughts. They build up to such intensity that they can seem like the sixty-feet tall fire-breathing dragons. These are the monsters of our old mythologies.
Under the brain's onslaught of negative thoughts and stories, the courage of our heart wilts. Our earlier bravado gets nudged aside by the onslaught of fearful thoughts. Our heroic journey starts to seem like a bad idea, and yet another noble dream or plan goes unfulfilled.
Anytime we commit to doing a bold action, but don’t actually experience the fears that come up, the fears will usually win out. That’s why it’s so important to feel all the negative feelings that invariably come up. Ignoring a pervasive fear is like turning our back on a junkyard dog. The unresolved fears will come up and bite us in the backside.
The Dance that We Do
Life gets so much better when we actually feel negative feelings we have about others, or about ourselves. As soon as we feel the feelings, our mind quits generating negative thoughts about that person. Negative attachments that would keep us attached to them in dysfunctional ways simply dissolve.
After we feel the negative feelings about them, our heart just naturally loves them for who they are. Magically, our thoughts about them also change.
Everyone is telepathic. Everyone. Although most people are still trying to remain unconscious at this time, on the meta-conscious level, the level of our spirit, everyone hears our more potent thoughts. They react as if they heard what we were thinking and think reciprocal thoughts in response.
If we cherish someone, they tend to cherish us back. If we think an angry thought toward them, they tend to respond with either an angry, resentful or self-depreciating thoughts and actions. This is the dance we all do dozens of times a day.
Thinking or talking negatively about someone influences them to act the way we expected. We need to assume more responsibility about how we think and talk about others, not just when they are present.
We have to remember, it’s all energy—actually consciousness—a dance we are having with others. There are no “one-way thoughts.” We exist in relationship with others and all of life. Part of being impeccable is assuming that everyone and everything responds to our thoughts as if they are hearing us. On the level of our spirit, they are.